"The most wasted of all days is one without laughter." ~e e cummings

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

The Important Post

The Important thing about Evan is that he is a Thinker.

He is a knower and a learner and and a discoverer of Facts and Information. When interested in a topic, he reads and reads and reads until he knows everything he wants to know. If you engage him in a conversation about Star Wars, World Wars 1 or 2, military weaponry, animals, Greek mythology, Ancient Roman military strategy, Harry Potter, or Percy Jackson, plan to stay put for a bit...until he's had a chance to share All He Knows with you. He is detail-oriented. He is a Thinker.

Evan is also a big brother. He is a story-writer, an illustrator, a Lego-builder, a puppy-snuggler, a Minecrafter, a baby whisperer, a book-devourer, and a pretend-player. Fairness and justice are his Core Values.

He prefers to figure out his own way through life and does not appreciate suggestions or advice on how to conduct his own business, thankyouverymuch. He takes his time, watching and learning, mentally rehearsing new skills before attempting them. Once ready to try, he has already nearly mastered the skill. Evan is not swayed by the movement of the crowd. He chooses his own path with confidence and remains on that path with unwavering determination. His will and his mind are strong.

Evan is my first-born son. The child who made me a mother.

But the Important thing about Evan is that he is a Thinker.


The Important thing about Max is that he is a Feeler.

He is emotional and expressive and he wears his heart on his sleeve. When he's angry or sad, he draws or writes until his feelings have been softened and his message has been delivered. When he's happy or excited, he is in constant motion, unable to contain his feelings to the inside of his body. He hugs tightly, sings loudly, speaks every word that passes through his mind, and cares deeply about the feelings of others. Max's eyes betray his every thought and emotion. He is an open book. He is a Feeler.

Max is a little brother and a big brother. He is a creator, a singer, a dancer, an accessorizer, an imaginer, a dreamer, and an artist. Kindness is his Core Value.

He knows who he is and has an innate understanding of the Way The World Should Be. Other peoples' negative actions disappoint him greatly. He is thoughtful and considerate of others. Max's heart beats compassion. He is brave, sensitive, and joyful. He is playful and full of ideas. He fills his world with sparkle.

Max is my middle child. The bridge between his siblings.

But the Important thing about Max is that he is a Feeler.


The Important thing about Molly is that she is a Doer.

She is constantly surprising me with the Big Kid abilities that come from her tiny little body. She writes and speaks and pretends and has the sass of someone much older than not-yet-four. She can keep up with her brothers in their level of play and sense of adventure. She sometimes leaps before looking, but not without giving it a passing thought, and never without the confidence of someone who knows she's Got This. She is brave. She is capable. She is a Doer.

Molly is also a little sister. She is clever and creative, patient and persistent. A puzzler, a Lego-er, a painter, an I'll-Do-It-Myself-er. Perseverance is her Core Value.

The Olaf to Max's Elsa, the Ahsoka to Evan's Anakin, Molly plays the role of the trusty sidekick well. But be sure to include her in the game or she will make her usually-tiny voice heard, largely demanding a role. She is a vegetarian by choice (with the exception of bacon, who can blame her?); a lover of all things furry. She is funny and dramatic and kind.

Molly is my Baby. The last chapter in my book of becoming a mother.

But the Important thing about Molly is that she is a Doer.


The Important thing about me is that I am their Mother.

Yes, I'm other things, as well. I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend. A writer, a reader, an over-thinker, a careful decision-maker, a learner.

An introvert, an agnostic, a liberal.

A rule follower. A list-maker.

A labeler.

But the Important thing about me is that I am their Mother.

Lesson Learned:

I don't always pigeon-hole my children into distinct personality-types, but when I do, it's because I've been inspired by a children's book.

With respect and gratitude to Margaret Wise Brown, author of one of my favorites, The Important Book.

1 comment :

  1. It's good to stop for a moment and to remember these Important Things. It can help when they're nudging you awake at 2am and refusing to go back to their own bed, even though you're sleep-deprived to the point of sobbing. Cold-hearted shits that they are, there is so much more to them than just that.